“Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.” -Proverbs 25:28
We may think we are good leaders of others, but we will never become great leaders unless we learn to become leaders of ourselves. When we set standards for others that we ourselves cannot follow, we become hypocrites. We better understand our peers when we understand ourselves.
Everything comes down to self-control.
If we cannot come to terms with our own sin and conquer it by the blood of Jesus, what makes us think we can ‘fix’ anyone else? It’s the same with leadership. God wants us to become better leaders of ourselves before we lead others. So how do we become a better leader of ourselves?
First of all, we need to let God master our sin.
1 Corinthians 10:13 says,
“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”
By trusting God to lead us away from temptation, we push ourselves to learn self-control. Actually, self-control doesn’t really involve controlling ourselves at all. It involves letting God control us. Left to our own devices, we would destroy ourselves. But when we are God-inspired, we become better leaders of ourselves.
We must be willing to embrace change.
2 Corinthians 5:17 says,
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:
The old has gone, the new is here!”
When we give our lives to Christ, we can’t stay the same. Before, we lived recklessly, thinking for our own self. We let ourselves be controlled by the desires of the flesh. But since Christ now lives in us, we must be willing for Him to change us from the inside out. He will lead us in the right direction so that we can do the same for others.
He will also create in us a healthy self-esteem. We are treasured by God, so we shouldn’t make ourselves worth any less. But we must also be humble, putting others above us. All of these leadership qualities can be displayed by you for you, through God.
We must be willing to lead by example.
This means accepting hard truths that will build our faith and character. We may preach one thing, but unless we follow it ourselves, it means nothing. People will notice that about us. Some of the greatest leaders I know are ones who are the same person in real life as they are when they preach!
God does not want us to be mastered by temptation, but rather by Him. He loves us so much that He has sent His Son to die so that we can be free of sin.
We must be willing to submit to other leaders.
Having other leaders in our life will help keep us humble and under submission. The Bible says, iron sharpens iron… submitting to other healthy leaders will help us to grow stronger.
The truth is, we all need a leader to follow if we want to continue to grow as a leader! And Jesus was the best leader of all. He is willing to help lead us along the right path, so we should be willing to follow His leadership. It’s called making Him “Lord of our life!”
He already knows all the right steps to take. He’s just waiting for us to ask for His help. And He certainly can guide us in all people issues and challenges. Best of all, He can help us grow in the areas where we need it most!
There’s an old, old saying about making Jesus your co-pilot. I disagree with that saying. He needs to be the PILOT! We should be in the 2nd seat following His leadership, not the pilot seat with Him following us around. He knows how to get us where we need to go so much better than we do. By letting Him lead in our life, we will never be disappointed or go in the wrong direction!
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