Anyone who has worked on changing anything in their life can attest, change is HARD!
Sometimes it seems like this elusive thing that is almost impossible. At some point, many people give up wanting to make any changes in their lives because everything they do fails and they run out of willpower. I’ve personally spend a few thousand hours figuring out how change doesn’t work. For those who know me and my strategic mind, I’m sure you can imagine it.
Lets look at some staggering statistics:
- 15% of dieters who lose the weight they desire keep it off for more than two years
- Only 30% of change management attempts are successful
- 95% of people break their new years resolutions by January 15
These statistics are just a sample to show you how hard change is! The value of making these changes to people’s personal and professional lives as well are HUGE! We know we want these things and we still don’t do them.
It’s laziness, right? Not so much
It’s lack of self-control? Missing the point.
When we are talking about making permanent changes, you have to escape the willpower trap and make behavioral, structural and psychological changes, otherwise you are fighting an uphill battle. Taking into account all the sources of influence increases your chances of change immensely.
“Hey Bryan, I know what do to, so I’m going to go off and do it now.” Save your time folks.
Simply knowing “what” to do is about 25% of the equation. Without identifying the other changes and putting in influence strategies, you simply just have the framework without the builders to make the structure complete.
To make the changes, you need feedback from an outside source. With Coaching, you can make these changes about 1000 times faster and more effective. Second best is a friend who will give you accurate feedback where you are at.
If you do find a coach to help you, they should do 5 things really well:
- Give you feedback on where you are at
- Help you identify exactly where you want to go
- Hold you accountable
- Pull the weeds out of your life that are holding you back.
- Give you the structural, behavioral and psychological skill-sets needed to carry out and implement the change.
Most of the times coaching is not effective because 4 and 5 are not done correctly. Also, people don’t always take feedback well to understand exactly where they are at. (My leadership group is laughing right now as this is a personal challenge for me!) Very few people have those skill-sets to coach others through them and even fewer are able to make the changes themselves.
So save yourself a few thousand hours, and remember that change doesn’t have to be so hard if we have the right skill-sets to make it happen.